Years ago I read in one of Shirley McLain’s books that life is like a show with various acts, some people only stay one act, and some stay the whole performance. It made me think about my life, and I would like to invite you to think about yours.
How often do we cling to people who have graced us with their presence, but don’t want to let them go when they want to take a different turn? We beat ourselves up thinking that we did something wrong, that we hurt them, that they don’t love us any longer, and finally come to the conclusion that there must be something wrong with us. Looking at this circumstance with acceptance that everyone has free will, has the right to live the life they want to live and being grateful for the time together will allow us to let them go with grace and the knowledge that we’ll love them forever. It will also give us emotional freedom.
I immigrated twice in my life, lost the family I knew when I was young and had to let people go, although it caused me a lot of pain at the time. I felt abandoned and unloved and asked: “Why do they want to leave? Am I not worth it?” It took a lot of soul searching in my adult years to make peace with it all, to come to the realization that it had nothing to do with me.
So, if you have gone through similar turmoil, have had friends and family leave and travel their own journey without you being part of it, please remember the “show of life”, the different acts performed, and that not all actors perform the whole show. Feel blessed to have been with them, cherish the time spent together, love them from far away, and allow the new actors to come close to you and to love you. Do not fear loss, nothing is lost, it only changes. And the show goes on ……..