The Gift of Care Givers

After years of struggling to maintain a balance between my disease and Steve’s life, who endeavored to make my life more comfortable at a considerable sacrifice, my health finally required that I have professional home care, and the thought was intimidating to me. Was it because I had to admit that I am getting weaker, or the fear of losing my privacy and independence? With considerable trepidation, I agreed, and to my surprise, I am enjoying the care and attention.

My caregiver is a lovely young woman, a beautiful soul, and a charming companion. I feel like I have a loving daughter with me, someone who cares and likes to see me happy.

People like her seem like angels to me. They put themselves into your shoes, put your interest ahead of their own, and give without restraint or limitation. Having an angel assisting me is like a dream come true. When she arrives in the morning a few times a week, it is like the sun is shining, and her smile touches me deeply, even if it is through her face mask. I was never aware of these selfless and caring people and feel grateful for the pleasure of finishing my life with them. Please do not worry about me. I am still functioning and alert but getting weaker rapidly. I am still learning how to maximize my home care but am getting better at it. One thing is sure: I enjoy every moment of it.

There were times when I thought I would have to move to a retirement home when my need for additional care manifested itself, my husband being a willing but not professional care giver. These last few years took a toll on him, and I didn’t want to increase his burden. Now I know that I can enjoy my time at home to the fullest, and I am grateful. It is like a dream comes true being surrounded by compassion, empathy, and kindness, and no additional burden for Steve. There is no space for feeling sorry for myself, but rather a deep sense of being blessed and grateful.

I cannot express the depth of my gratitude. If you ever had a fleeting thought of “what will become of me and how will I cope?” do not worry. There are angels amongst us who will share their kindness and skills and make your life worth living right to the end. One thing is sure; with their assistance you can enjoy every segment of your life!

Silvia Coggin, CPC
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8 Responses to “The Gift of Care Givers”

  1. Nancy Thorsen

    One day I will be where you are now, You are my inspiration to keep doing what I can and keep fighting. One day at a time and one foot forward each day. Hugs and prayers to you and Steve.

  2. Leanne Hoelzer

    hi silvia i agree it’s such a challenge to accept help from others and yet once we accept it and tell ourselves it’s what we have to do to “maintain” our dignity and our feelings of self i know for myself i am able to do less the things i do do make me so happy and the little things in life are becoming BIG accomplishments nothing prepared us for this stage of life we have to “feel” our way thru it and decide what works and what doesn’t i’m so happy you’re able to be cared for and are comfortable at home steve is a good man and I’m so glad you have each other and Romeo of course

    • Silvia Coggin

      Hi Leanne, Yes, I am grateful for all my blessings. My caregiver extends so much kindness to me, that I cannot imagine a life without her. Steve and I are both benefitting of the loving care she extends to us. Hugs, Silvia

  3. Heide

    Hello Silvia, I am so glad that you have more help and are taking some of the pressure off Steve. That allows you the freedom to enjoy your life more. Thanks for our health angels. Sending lots of hugs to you and your family. Your cousin Heide

    • Silvia Coggin

      Hi Heide, Yes, caregivers are a gift and I cherish it every day. It makes my life much easier, since I forced myself to do more than I should. And of course, Steve benefits of it as well. Take good care of yourself.

  4. Silvia Coggin

    Hi Dee, Thanks for thinking of us and I hope you are well and staying safe. If you have a free minute, maybe you can fill me in what is going on in your life. I am sure lots of exciting things are happening. Sending you hugs and love.


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