Second Chances

How often do we tell ourselves: “That’s it, I’m done!” Are we acting out of pain without thinking of possible consequences? Do we want to live without the people involved and want to close the door on a relationship permanently?

It is not always easy to give second chances. There is a lingering pain, hurtful memories, and fear of starting the suffering all over again should old wounds reopen. Does this sound familiar? I have experienced those feelings, and it sometimes took considerable time to get ready to let them go and to replace them with forgiveness. But when I did, a stressful burden was lifted, and I felt better and more in peace.

One thing is sure; we can forgive in our hearts and minds and nurture the feeling that everyone deserves a second chance. Looking at painful experiences objectively, you might discover that it wasn’t just a one-way street and that we carry some of the responsibility. Consider how often you have received second, or even third chances. We all make mistakes and sometimes deserve another opportunity to do better and to try again. A second chance is an opportunity to show that we are wiser and more knowledgeable.

Second chances and forgiveness are close cousins. When we can forgive others as well as ourselves, we are ready to grant a second chance. That doesn’t mean we have to repeat the same mistakes all over again. Let’s keep in mind that we all change and the person in the past is not the person in the present. I believe we grow spiritually and can leave much of our heavy baggage behind.

If you feel you do not give or get second chances, consider this quote by Nicholas Sparks.

“Don’t think there are no second chances. Life always offers you a

We should enjoy life, and this is only possible if we are at peace within. May you enjoy a happy journey filled with love for yourself and others.

Silvia Coggin, CPF
Author and founder of

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