Filling one’s life with regrets is like turning off the light and deciding that life is not to be enjoyed. And the sad part is that regrets don’t change the past, they only poison the present as well as the future, if we allow that to happen.
Regrets don’t make us better and more loving people. A more productive way would be to look at who or what caused the pain, ask for forgiveness in our minds and forgive ourselves as well. It will enhance our consciousness and bring us closer to a mindful life. It will also allow us to bring light and joy back into our hearts and to feel happiness again.
There are some things I would do differently, but since I do not know how my life would have unfolded with those divergent approaches, I have made peace, except one regret is still lingering. Having children and being part of a traditional family, has been a dream I hoped to realize. But I made the decision, out of love for my husband, to go along with his desire and live a life with just the two of us. It has been a good life, and I wouldn’t have done many things, like traveling around the world, with children to raise. But it is still a painful spot in my heart, and I know that I would have loved to be a mother. Sacrificing one’s dream leads to regrets and in my case, I, unfortunately, realized this when it was too late. Being a stepmom brings me joy. Circumstances didn’t allow us to live closer to each other, and I accepted it with some melancholy. I love my stepdaughter, and she loves me. We make the best out of our different lifestyles and the long distances which always separate us.
I try not to dwell on things which I cannot change. Being near the end of my life journey, I have made peace with the sorrow and pain which happened in my earlier years. I can now look at the various segments from the outside and am no longer a participant, just an onlooker. The memories are there, but the attached emotions are gone. I am finally able to embrace my life as a whole, a progression to who I am today.
A life filled with regrets would be like having a dark cloud obscuring the joys of the present and the anticipation of happiness tomorrow. It is entirely up to us to dissolve such darkness or to keep it, a decision that profoundly affects the quality of our lives. So, what are you waiting for? There is no benefit in preserving and carrying a bundle of regrets. Live your life to the fullest!