Choices

Sitting in front of my doctor a few days ago, I realized that I had to make a choice and that I cannot have it all. I was either to live with incredible pain and drive the car, or take sufficient pain medication and not drive. It was amazing how emotional this was for me and how much I seemed to depend on my four wheels and the sense of freedom they give me. But then reason set in, Steve and I coordinated our calendars, and to my tremendous surprise not being able to drive didn’t pose serious problems. I could go wherever I wanted and needed! This said, it all centered around Steve’s flexibility, and he was as caring as anyone could be. I found a willing and loving chauffeur!

As you have realized by now, I chose the benefit of the pain medication, and after so many days of severe pain, I felt like a human being again and was able to appreciate my life.

It was amusing in a way because the fact jumped out at me how German I have remained after all these years. Germans didn’t much believe in pain killers in my time. Was it considered a sign of weakness? I don’t know, but I hope things are different these days. As a good German, I took my pain meds but strictly followed the amount indicated on the bottle, and with no consideration of the amount of pain I experienced. The doctor told me during our visit, to take the least pain medication I needed to be pain-free and have an acceptable quality of life. Lesson learned! I feel so much better, and the price of not driving a car is nothing compared to being miserable. I also decided to check if I have other old beliefs stuck somewhere in my memory bank, which could directly or indirectly still influence my life.

When choosing to drive vs. not to drive, I realized that being independent was the kicker. I remembered how my mother-in-law fought to keep driving her car. There was no logic left in her mind about whether she could or should drive; she only wanted to keep her car and her independence. I wondered then how I would react, and I have my answer. I will only drive when I can safely do so. It is not just about me but also all the other people on the road. Isn’t that true for all us seniors? We have reached a time in our lives when we have to make compromises. They are not always easy and can often cause anxiety and fear. But as long as our decisions are based on full knowledge of the circumstances and possible consequences, we can feel comfortable and in peace. And there are always solutions, as long we keep an open mind.

I know that my driving restriction is only temporary and that I will be able to drive again safely, but it allowed me to look within and see that I will be able to make necessary life-changing decisions without regrets or hang-ups when they become necessary. Isn’t it amazing how much we can learn about ourselves? I am grateful for having had this opportunity.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

 

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14 Responses to “Choices”

  1. Sandy

    Silvia, you are a wise woman who meets life with grace.

    I think your blog might have answered doe questions I have had. Does this new decision means we can move forward with plans to get together??

    I look forward to seeing you!

    Sandy

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    • Silvia Coggin

      The pain meds are only temporary therapy and assisting me in healing. I still need a little time to get well and stronger. Not sure what your question is, Sandy, but yes, I would love to get together when I am over this hurdle. I wish you a great day.

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  2. Katharine V

    Silvia your realization is such a wise one, difficult though it may be. Many studies have shown that people heal, recover or can simply manage more effectively when not suffering in pain. Amazed how we often surprise ourselves. Sending you positive healing thoughts.

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    • Silvia Coggin

      I had to discover it myself, having had such a strong aversion to pain meds. My outlook has changed, and I am very grateful. Enjoy your day!

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  3. Diane Shepperd

    You amaze me, Silvia! Strong and savvy and you look to the positive. You inspire me to live life to the fullest. Julian and I are sending prayers and healing thoughts your way.

    Love, Love, Love

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    • Silvia Coggin

      Good Morning Diane. Things are slowly looking up and I am so grateful. Thanks for your kind thoughts.

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  4. Heide

    Smart decision. We definitely don’t want to drive while impaired by pain meds. Thinking about not being able to drive is scary. But you have your chauffeur handy. So relax and feel better soon so you won’t need the medication…..

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    • Silvia Coggin

      Thank you, Heide. I am healing and every step is in the right direction. Thanks for your support.

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  5. Robert Oro

    Silvia,
    As we discussed the last time we saw you, at our ages it is all about “quality of life.”
    We all only have control of the present so let us make it the best we can for as long as we can.
    Hi to Steve!
    Enjoy the Journey,
    Bob and Debbie

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    • Silvia Coggin

      I agree with you completely, and with some adaptation to changes, we can maintain a good and fulfilling life. Enjoy your day.

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  6. Leanne hoelzer

    Sylvia I hear every word you said. We Germans are intractable and resist change at almost any cost. I’ve had to learn you stop being an oak tree ?And to become more of a willow tree willing to bend in the breezes of life. You are a smart woman and the value you got out of less pain far outweighed the deficit of not driving. AND it gave Steve a reason to be your knight in shining armor. Be well my old friend love and sparkles from
    long Island

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    • Silvia Coggin

      A willow tree … I’ll try to see it in my mind. Thanks for your kind thoughts and words. Enjoy your day.

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      • leanne hoelzer

        it can be a challenge we are so used to being the oak tree. learning to bend with the wind can give us a chance to experience letting go of the control knob for just a little while i used to take care of the whole world i had to juggle all the balls constantly so the world would not crash as i’ve “matured” i’ve realized i can’t do anything to change it i didn’t cause it and i can only do what i can do worrying about it won’t do it or myself any good now i take the time to ask myself “how important is it” and usually it’s not important at all and i can let it go have a sparkling day Silvia

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        • Silvia Coggin

          I hear you, Leanne, and am so glad you have found a way to make your life more rewarding. My deep metaphysical studies have helped me tremendously, and I am so grateful for all the teachers and masters I was privileged to encounter over the years, as well as listening to my friends and readers. Enjoy your day.

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