A Special Day

Seventy-six years ago, a little girl was born into the ravaging final stage of WWII. Three months later, her father died in a massive bombing attack, and then after a few weeks, the house burned down in another assault by allied bombers, burying her under the rubble. Her mother dug her out and tried to save the baby’s eyes using her breast milk since no water was available. A rough beginning indeed, and that little girl was me.

It has been a long and diversified journey since then. I experienced incredible spiritual encounters, painful losses, stressful family situations, two immigrations, a successful career, exotic travel, and a more even and exciting life with my husband for the last 38 years.

Looking back at my life and considering the serious health condition I am dealing with, my birthday this year felt like the closing of a circle. I felt compelled to ponder where I stood in my life at this time and came to the conclusion that I am in peace. Most of my life lessons have been absorbed, and I can honestly say that I am ready to accept whatever is waiting for me. Not everything has been solved to my satisfaction, but I cannot change people. The only thing I can do is love them from far away and hope that someday they will open up enough to feel my love.

I have been blessed with many loving and caring friends, and my life is filled with happiness. Please do not think that this is a goodbye note, I still have some living to do, but my birthday this year brought clarity to me which I wanted to share.

Life is a gift, and being close to the end of mine, I am filled with appreciation. I know that some of the struggles and challenges made me grow to the person I have become. I am grateful for the opportunities and will keep on with my efforts to become a better and more fulfilled person. My birthday has always been connected to a painful loss in my younger years, and I understand loss so much better since I have lived it myself. We all feel in different ways, and I am not so presumptuous to think that I am an expert about loss and know how others think and feel. I am talking about the hole and the void loss creates and the resulting experience we carry with us throughout our whole life. This is true for most of our emotions, and the more I can feel, the humbler I become.

My birthday this year was a special day. I’ll travel this memory lane often and it will give me strength and joy during the coming year.

Enjoy every day to the fullest and be happy.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

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8 Responses to “A Special Day”

  1. Sandy


    I read your blog with great interest. I always do! 😊

    I don’t know you really, really well, but what I do know, I really, really like. You are so authentic, that reading what you write is a lot like sitting with you for a visit. Your life experiences are so different from mine, and it’s amazing how you have taken in and grown from each. Not many people do that with such purpose. Thank you for sharing what life has taught you.

    I had to chuckle at your mother’s experiences with birthdays. My own birthday is Dec. 27, so I know how she felt. 😊

    I am glad that you invited this birthday to be significant, and are able to savor it! That a sweet way to bask in the love of friends and family.

    I regret that we’ve not had time together. This pandemic has really changed things, and I have been particularly aware of how important it’s been to protect you.

    We, too, are mostly at home. Art has no strength, and so it’s important to protect him. We continue to see a lot of doctors. Those appointments have become our social outings.😄

    I want you to know that as I pray for you I always remember that your request was to pray for quality of life. I believe that you always find ways to recognize it, and hope that you feel the presence of our God, especially at those times when you are needing His strength. I thank God that you are filled with Peace.

    Thank you, again for today’s blog. I know you have touched many hearts – just by being Silvia.

    Please give my best to Steve.

    God’s blessings,

    • leanne hoelzer

      my dearest Silvia when we met years ago at the Investment club in Northport i knew you were special. what i didn’t realize until just now is we are both people who lost our daddies when we were very young You God bless your mama, for saving you lived in France where my daddy perished in WW2 i was only 4 at the time and you were an infant. it was so terribly hard growing up without a father. We both had mom’s who did their best to raise a child. We are both so fortunate and I, too, am at peace. I can’t love people the way i want to because of the pandemic. I, like you, have found out that i can’t change anyone but me. I think that’s one of the best lessons i’ve ever learnt. As we “mature” we learn lessons that are so harsh when we are learning them. I think peace comes when we realize that our Higher Power brought us to them and thru them and that they were lessons we had to learn and absorb. I hope we both get to celebrate our special day next year I hope you get to eat that chocolate tart until it’s all gone and then have a few more to enjoy thank you for being so wonderful this was not a goodbye letter for me it was a I’m at peace and if i go i’m ready letter till we meet again love and hugs to you and steve and romeo from leanne, and rick and Henry, Otis, Rosie, Tink, Archie and Sidney (cats)

      • Silvia Coggin

        Dear Leanne,
        I fully intend to enjoy my chocolate tart and will make a wish when I indulge! Something to look forward to! I miss seeing you and getting together at the Investment Club. Time flies, but friendships persist. Lots of hugs to you all, including your little furry children.

    • Silvia Coggin

      Dear Sandy,
      Thanks so much for your kind and loving words. They touched me deeply. I would love to know you better as well. How does a FaceTime call sound? We are not entertaining in the house, but if you and Art are interested, maybe a get together on our patio? Masks and distancing … but it would be wonderful. Thinking of you and my warmest wishes to you and Art.

  2. Robert Oro

    The tensions are so high in this country at this time. I wish all could read your words and find some kind of peace in their hearts.
    So hard for us “huggers” during these times. Here is a big virtual hug to you and Steve.
    You guys rock!
    Be safe!
    Enjoy the Journey,
    Bob and Debbie

  3. Sarah Sedgwick

    Hello Silvia, we only met once or was it twice through my parents but I think you are such a sweet and classy person. I have thought about you since that time as we both were facing the challenges of major health issues with stark lack of help from the medical world….. I wish you much peace and love and hopefully we get to come out of the other side of this shut down soon so we can see those that we love and miss. Hugs xo

    • Silvia Coggin

      Hi Sarah,
      Thank you for your kind words. I also remember you fondly and hope that you are enjoying better health. The pandemic doesn’t make things easier, and I agree with you and hope it will end soon.


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