And Life Goes On

There are many changes happening in my life, some by choice, some by necessity, but in the end, it all comes down to me and how I see my life unfolding.

Being positive is one of the choices I made a long time ago, and it has been and still is a pillar of how I live my life. It helped me tremendously over the years and is a true blessing with my present health challenge. I remind myself every day that there is nothing which cannot be improved by a positive outlook. Sometimes it takes more than just reminding myself, and then I seek help through meditation and reading. But I always get there and can again feel balanced.

We all have hurdles to overcome, and it is solely up to us how we handle them. Do we become bitter, resentful and blame others or circumstances? Or do we have hope and faith that we can overcome the obstacles? The present might be painful and disheartening, but if you look to the future with a positive attitude, you will find something which you can look forward to and which can strengthen your hope. And then you can maintain positive thoughts that move you to a better place. This is not easy. It takes courage and strength to take responsibility, to admit that in the end “the buck stops here”!

We are the only ones who can bring change, and sometimes we might not be able to, like for example in the case of an incurable health challenge. But we still have choices and can decide if we want to be a victim or a martyr, or if we want to enjoy every day to fullest as long as we can. Of course, it can be tempting to blame someone or something, but what will it achieve? Blaming doesn’t change anything, it only makes us more angry and more negative. And we miss out on the joys of our life’s journey.

I have learned that life goes on with or without me. I can be dragged along screaming and fighting, or I can be a willing participant and enjoy the ride, no matter what. After my mother died when I was 17, I lived through some difficult years, I was definitely dragged along protesting and fighting all the way. I didn’t know any better then, but I still remember how painful and stressful it all was. There was very little happiness. Thanks to the gift of spiritual teachings and teachers, who assisted me in learning how to forgive, to open my eyes and my heart, I was able to leave those negative times behind and to see the beauty of life again. I still practice these teachings and they allow me to keep my balance and positive attitude.

Enjoy life to the fullest!

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

Staying Balanced

It is quite difficult to remain focused and balanced these days with all the tension and controversy sweeping the world. We can easily get side tracked by emotions which then increase our stress level and cause us to feel unhappy and out of balance. Avoiding news can help, but most of us like to stay informed and severing ourselves from current events is not the solution. So how can we remain balanced and aligned?

One way is to watch, listen and evaluate what we see and hear in accordance to our own value system. We accept or reject without getting emotionally involved. We remind ourselves that we most likely cannot change what is happening but that we can choose how we react. Sometimes it is very difficult to be just an observer, especially when it affects or offends our core values. But getting upset and pushing against what is happening, doesn’t change or solve anything. It only affects our wellbeing and brings us unhappiness.

This choice of how we react and what attitude we adopt presents itself in every aspect of our lives. Learning it in one area will make it easier to apply it in others. Having struggled with serious health issues for years, I had to make a decision if I wanted to remain balanced or to focus only on the inevitable. I decided to remain centered and although there are moments when it is more difficult than others, I have maintained a positive outlook. We all have certain burdens, like health challenges, difficult relationships, loss of a loved one, or being unemployed, just to name a few. It is up to us to decide how we look at them and what attitude we adopt to handle our issues. No matter what is happening to us, we can remain strong, positive and hopeful. Connect with your inner being and have faith that compassion, love and empathy will prevail.

I like to see the world in bright colors, and I believe in the good of everyone and everything. But that is not always easy, and sometimes I have to repeat my mantras frequently during a single day. I breath slowly and deeply, and the unwanted emotions gradually disappear. Once my balance returns it feels like a burden has been lifted. Do my disturbing thoughts come back and try to make me agitated again? The key word is “try”, for as soon as I am aware of it, I start my breathing and mantras. Remember the saying “that which you resist persists”. Fighting the unwanted thoughts just makes them stronger. Be patient with yourself. Rome wasn’t built in one day, and quieting your mind will take time as well.

Staying balanced means keeping your emotions on an even keel. To achieve this, we decide that no matter what comes our way, we will stay strong and avoid any emotional turmoil. Not only will we make better decisions, but we will also be happier and healthier.

Life is what you make it!

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

Excitement

Life without excitement is like champagne without bubbles, it has lost its appeal and attraction. Would we drink flat champagne? Of course not! So why do we think that sometimes we have to live a life without excitement?

In the various stages of our life we are attracted and enthralled by different things, and our excitement changes as well. The simple things, which are so exciting for a young child, become bolder and usually more costly with increasing age. But one fact remains the same: we feel that we can conquer the world, and that there are no limitations. Everything seems possible; we are riding the waves of life feeling the wind in our hair and the energy flowing through us. It is like a drug and we want more. Do you remember your first date? The excitement of getting ready, your beating heart and you couldn’t think of anything else? Yes, at that moment you drank bubbly champagne and enjoyed every moment of it.

There is never a reason to drink flat champagne, we are always worth a good bubbly. And if you find yourself asking the question why the world became so bland or why you became so blasé, then it is time to lighten up and bring some spice into your life.  Do something you have never done but always wanted to do. A cruise? Riding a horse? Buying a sports car? Taking dance lessons to become the dancer you always wanted to be? Let your imagination fly, feel the excitement, and soar like an eagle. Excitement is what keeps us young and going strong.

Excitement can be laced with fear and doubts, but the thrill of being excited is worth the trepidations. Excitement is contagious, we like to be around people ready to embrace life’s many opportunities and challenges, and just listening to them gives birth to our own excitement. I fondly remember a recent get together with friends during which they enthusiastically talked about the safari they had planned. My love and passion for Africa started stirring, and I found myself googling safari possibilities, imagining myself in Africa and it was like taking a short mini trip. Yes, reality had to set in a little later, but the excitement of those moments cannot be replaced and I still cherish them.

So, what are you waiting for? Pop the cork and enjoy your bubbly! Live and enjoy the moment and some excitement regularly.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Founder and Author of NotJustCooking.com

 

That’s Nonsense

How many times do we hear “that’s nonsense” in our lives? And how many times does it stop our creative juices and make us conform?

I believe “that’s nonsense” should give birth to more creativity because it only shows the limited imagination and closed mind of the one who makes this declaration. It is only the ones who believe in “the impossible – nonsense for some” who are ready for incredible discoveries and out-of-the-box thinking.

When Galileo Galilei announced heliocentrisme, it was rejected, and I am sure many scientists of his time classified it as “nonsense”. How could it be? It was absurd. And we know now that he was right.

In modern times, Steve Job was seen as a hippie, and many looked at his vision as “nonsense”. But he manifested a changed world and created Apple. He realized his dream and didn’t pay attention to the nonsense proclaimers. Blackberry leads the pack of losers. And that’s what we all should do. Our dreams can be small or big, there are no limits, except the ones you establish or allow others to insert into your belief system.

I love this quote from Dr. Seuss: “I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cell”.

Often, “that’s nonsense” just means you have met someone with a limited mind, a person who is boxed in and cannot see beyond. Trust your dreams, intuition and creativity, and as long as you nurture them with the lifeblood of your confidence and faith, they will manifest.

“That’s Nonsense” is just an opinion and as long as you don’t accept it as a judgment and verdict, it is just words. It only limits the person who believes that other people know more. Of course there is a lot of nonsense that is based on ignorance and conspiracy theories. When confronted with them, I just listen without judgment or comment. We all have the freedom to think and be who we want to be, but we also have the freedom to walk away when something doesn’t feel good.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

Dreaming

DreamingGrowing up in postwar Germany there wasn’t much space for dreaming because the reality of surviving took first place in people’s minds. I learned quickly that if I want to keep my dreams alive, I would have to hide them within. I have always been a dreamer but have also kept myself firmly rooted in reality.

As a child I was able to visualize things in my mind, making my life more colorful. When I read my books, I lived in them and became the heroine. One of my dreams was to have a dog, but it was out of the question for economic reasons. So I took a stick and a ball, named the ball, and it became my pet. I walked controlling the ball – my puppy – with the stick, and I had fun talking to my little friend and visualizing it being alive and playing with me. I learned quite young that I could enhance my life by creating interesting games in my mind and with my two dolls.

Later, during my many years of metaphysical studies, I realized that dreaming is a major part of living the life we desire. First we dream about changes, things we want to change, tweak or include into our lives. We make the dream more and more vivid by adding color, music, energy and anything else we desire. The dream becomes so real that we can see, smell and touch it. Dreaming is fun, very gratifying, and empowering. And when our dream has received enough energy, it has the power to manifest and to bring what we have longed for.

Dreaming is a journey and I cannot imagine my life without it. It helped me through difficult times. I would go to that special place in my mind, work on my dream, polish it, expand it, and better survive the storms of life. Sometimes I traveled multiple journeys at the same time with different dreams, each with new goals and destinations.

But there are also dreams that wither and die. They haven’t received the energy required to develop and grow, most likely because their purpose is not sufficiently relevant. Dreams are living things so we can keep them alive or let them fade away.

Dreaming is healthy because it helps us cope and thrive. Dreams keep us focused on our goals and moving in the right direction. They are powerful but also so fragile. When I decided in my youth to keep them hidden, it was because I had learned the hard way that harsh words can destroy a dream like a hurricane levels a home.

Let’s be dreamers for it is the dreamers who change the world!

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

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