Opportunities

Opportunities are all around us, we see them or don’t, we take advantage of them or let them slip by. They are there to grasp, but one has to have an open mind and open heart.

My widowed mother raised me in postwar Germany. Looking back, we had very little, although there was always food, clothing and a roof over our heads. I remember vividly that I sometimes took my doll and went to the tennis club. There was a bench outside the courts of the club, and I sat watching the people play. They were so beautiful in their white outfits, swinging their rackets and gliding over the clay courts. I sat there, watching and dreaming, and promised myself that one day I would play tennis like that as well. For a poor girl in post-war Germany, that was an outrageous dream. It was so far out that I never shared it with my mother. I didn’t want her to shatter my dream. I knew she meant well, but I always heard “be reasonable, that is not possible for people like us”, and so on. As an adult, I joined a club and played tennis on clay courts in a white skirt and top just like my dream. I saw an opportunity, took it, and made my dream come true.

I have always questioned and rejected the concept that there are limitations on what I can dream and achieve, although I had to conform when I was young. I would have loved to become a professional like a doctor or a lawyer, but it was out of reach. I had to compromise and take opportunities that were open to me, mostly for financial reasons, and I have no regrets. During my earlier years the pressure of postwar Germany, family, and the German class system made for a limited life, but I was always sustained by my dreams. The easiest way for many was to go to America, the land of opportunities, where anyone could succeed and live the life so much desired. America was a shining beacon of hope in those difficult times and a promise for a better life.

When I started studying metaphysics, I realized that I had choices, that in effect I had all the choices, and that I did not have to give my power away to tradition. The thought was intoxicating, and I felt my wings growing. I took my power back and opened my heart and my eyes to opportunities. I let many of them go by or saw them too late. It was up to me how I wanted to look at the missed opportunities: do I want to play the “if only game” and watch with regret some missed opportunities sail down the river, or do I turn my eyes upstream to see and accept new ones coming to me? This is a choice we all have to make more often than we realize, and sometimes we make this choice unconsciously based on old beliefs or imagined limitations. If you feel you don’t have opportunities, that you are an unfortunate and unlucky person stuck in a situation through no fault of yours, then now is a perfect time to reevaluate, regroup and develop new dreams. Watch your mind and clean out limiting beliefs and negative thoughts. Open your heart and mind to new opportunities. They are all around you, you are not excluded, and there are no exceptions.

It is your choice, and yours alone. Believe in your dreams and opportunities will appear, so that you will be able to live the life you are seeking.

Like many others, I immigrated to America after living in Belgium. My life unfolded, with obstacles sometimes barring my way. But I never gave up dreaming and believing in opportunities. I am still the young girl watching people play tennis and dreaming about my future. I will always dream, it is the beginning and the opening of the portal to opportunities. When the day comes that I no longer dream, it will be my time to say good bye.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

 

Dreaming

DreamingGrowing up in postwar Germany there wasn’t much space for dreaming because the reality of surviving took first place in people’s minds. I learned quickly that if I want to keep my dreams alive, I would have to hide them within. I have always been a dreamer but have also kept myself firmly rooted in reality.

As a child I was able to visualize things in my mind, making my life more colorful. When I read my books, I lived in them and became the heroine. One of my dreams was to have a dog, but it was out of the question for economic reasons. So I took a stick and a ball, named the ball, and it became my pet. I walked controlling the ball – my puppy – with the stick, and I had fun talking to my little friend and visualizing it being alive and playing with me. I learned quite young that I could enhance my life by creating interesting games in my mind and with my two dolls.

Later, during my many years of metaphysical studies, I realized that dreaming is a major part of living the life we desire. First we dream about changes, things we want to change, tweak or include into our lives. We make the dream more and more vivid by adding color, music, energy and anything else we desire. The dream becomes so real that we can see, smell and touch it. Dreaming is fun, very gratifying, and empowering. And when our dream has received enough energy, it has the power to manifest and to bring what we have longed for.

Dreaming is a journey and I cannot imagine my life without it. It helped me through difficult times. I would go to that special place in my mind, work on my dream, polish it, expand it, and better survive the storms of life. Sometimes I traveled multiple journeys at the same time with different dreams, each with new goals and destinations.

But there are also dreams that wither and die. They haven’t received the energy required to develop and grow, most likely because their purpose is not sufficiently relevant. Dreams are living things so we can keep them alive or let them fade away.

Dreaming is healthy because it helps us cope and thrive. Dreams keep us focused on our goals and moving in the right direction. They are powerful but also so fragile. When I decided in my youth to keep them hidden, it was because I had learned the hard way that harsh words can destroy a dream like a hurricane levels a home.

Let’s be dreamers for it is the dreamers who change the world!

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com

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