Quality of Life

Quality of life is hard to define or to describe, and I have never spent much time thinking about it.  My life has been interesting. I loved my work, traveled extensively, socialized, entertained and in a few words, did what I wanted to do, and what I thought would make me happy and bring me joy. Looking back, I can honestly say that I enjoyed a great quality of life when I was master of my ship.

But then, everything changed. It suddenly felt like I was living in a tumbling house of cards. My doctors talked to me about choosing between quality of life and length of life. I was in shock. I had the quality of life I wanted, but it was evaporating. What am I to do with my limited physical capabilities to create a new quality of life and what would that include? I was certain of one thing. It would have to be new and different, something I never thought would be the center of my daily life. Would it be possible or would I fall into a depression? I decided to find a new quality of life, and to never allow self-pity to hold me back.

So, after a lot of soul searching it all came together. I can still see my friends, just in different ways. Late-night and long dinners have been replaced by early bird dining and “happy hour” is becoming a favorite of mine. I have replaced my cherished dinner parties with invitations to cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. I realized that I can still socialize, just in different ways.  Then we got an adorable Yorkie puppy, Romeo, a true lover and a sunbeam of love in my heart. I always loved to read and now I have the time to do it. Workouts at the gym are no longer possible, but I take delight in vigorous walks. And of course, I love to write, and I stay busy with my memoires, blog and other projects.

I realized that one’s quality of life is fluid and needs to be adaptable under any circumstances. But it requires an open heart and mind to do so. I know I will have to adapt again, but as long as I can fit some of the activities I enjoy into my daily life, I know I can tell my doctor, “Yes, I still have a good and acceptable quality of life”.

Silvia Coggin, CPC
Author and Founder of NotJustCooking.com


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8 Responses to “Quality of Life”

    • Silvia Coggin

      Thank you so much. Your kind and encouraging words mean a lot to me. Wishing you and Sandy a great Sunday evening.

  1. Sandy

    Silvia, you have an amazing ability to adapt! Not so many people have that kind of openness and strength. I find that when I determinedly chart my own course, things have a tendency to go awry, so that is when I once again turn over the Captaincy (is that a word??) of my life to the one who placed the stars in the sky. He takes care of what I need and supplies me with strength and peace. I think you’ve done that, too. You are an amazing person, and I have such admiration for you!

    Sending hugs to you and Steve.

    • Silvia Coggin

      Thanks for your uplifting words. Every day is a gift for me and I am grateful for what I have. Make it the best day ever! Silvia

  2. Bob Oro


    Have been trying to fly my plane and the planes of both my kids.
    Does not work.
    Thanks for your inspiration!
    You amaze each and every day.
    Best to Steve!
    Enjoy the Journey,
    Bob and Debbie

    • Silvia Coggin

      Your support is so dear to me, thanks for reading my blog and your comments give me courage and strength. All the best to you and Debbie. Silvia

  3. Nancy Thorsen

    Very well written, Silvia. We are looking forward to more lunches and cocktail hours with you and Steve when we return to Tucson in the Fall. In the meantime, let’s both keep positive attitudes and do what we can, one day at a time. Hugs to you and Steve.

    • Silvia Coggin

      Thanks for your support and cannot wait for your return. Hope you are doing well and will come back to Tucson in great spirits! Hugs to you, dear friend.


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